First Timers Orientation

Many people join these groups and go to events expecting them to be sort of welcomed with open arms, with everybody introducing themselves, and people going out of their way to make them feel welcome and part of the group. And maybe that WILL happen, but you can’t expect it. The other guys there are there because they want to have a good time, and most of them will probably spend the bulk of the time talking to the people they already know. That’s just human nature – people find it less stressful talking to people they already have met and gotten to know.

So assume that when you go, the onus will be on you. YOU will need to introduce yourself to others, and YOU will need to initiate the lion’s share of conversations. Chances are everybody will be friendly and open to chat with a newbie, but you’ll still have to make the overtures yourself.

To ease the pressure and help you overcome these issues, CBL has initiated a First Timers Orientation at all our sizable events. This will help you understand the event and meet a group of guys who you will automatically have something in common with. Hope to see you there!

Have a great time. Rawr!


Cubs are bears in the making (I know, how creative right?) Just like in good ol’ nature, Cubs are going to be smaller, younger and have slightly less hair (usually) than their Bear counterparts. It’s not uncommon to see a Bear & Cub couple either (kind of like a Daddy/Twink situation.)


The Otter label is either newer or just a lot less known than the others. There are also a couple differing opinions on what this means… but essentially it’s a sub-category of Bears. Otters are thinner, but still rock the full-out body hair. They will usually be furry versions of twinks (but can be sometimes confused as cubs, but cubs are usually stockier.)


The Bear is the polar opposite of the Twink. Bears are large and in charge, wouldn’t dream of shaving ANY of their body hair. Large and jovial, these beasts range from muscle-daddy to Sumo wrestler, are generally a little older and are usually some of the nicest guys you’ll ever meet. An older bear can become a Polar bear or Silver bear based on hair color.